I’m now a high-functioning and responsible adult still dealing with massive unresolved issues that have, in the past, almost destroyed my physical health and various other aspects of my life. And like many queer women who grew up in restrictive religious communities, I learned early on to hide my feelings and trust no one. Like many queer women, I have a lot of mental health issues, including long-term depression that I don’t expect to ever go away. You’ll see them and recognize them and utilize them and it will be GREAT. There will be other opportunities to come out and be out with these people - ones that won’t make everyone sad about a pun that didn’t land. I bet that somewhere in your sense of humor’s subconscious, you knew this, and that’s why you stopped yourself, and then panicked because you couldn’t immediately pinpoint why you didn’t take the opportunity, and then labeled that as you being weird about coming out to new people. That’s how the best puns work! If you have to explain them after you say them, everyone is embarrassed and feels sad. I think the reason you would’ve chimed in with a gay pun in front of your old coworkers is because they already knew you were gay, so the joke would land without any necessary backstory. But guess what, all of those things will probably come up at some point, eventually, and when that time comes I doubt you’ll hesitate to stand right up and declare, in front of god and everybody, that you sometimes do feel like zoos border on unethical or that mozzarella sticks are the parsley of appetizers! BUT THAT’S JUST ME.
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What if, instead of seeing this as you being afraid/weird about coming out (and the feeling-avalanche that sets off re: being true to yourself, ‘bravery’/’integrity’ surrounding the idea of being in or out of a closet, etc.), you simplified this wayyyyyy way down to what it actually is: you don’t know these people and being your 100% comfortable self in front of literal total strangers isn’t something that comes naturally to you, or to most people, and that’s completely normal! You probably also didn’t find a good opportunity to let everyone know what kind of desserts you dislike, your favorite movie genre, the most embarrassing thing that happened to you in 6th grade, whether or not you drink alcohol, which of your family members have died, how you feel about birds kept as pets or while you’re at it how you feel about zoos on the whole, your top three Girl Scout cookies, if you’re the type of person that will go in on a combo appetizer platter at Applebee’s and if yes, what’s your stance on mozzarella sticks, ET CETERA. I’m pretty much 100% out and the company I’m working for is really open and supportive of LGBT people so there is no reason for me to not be out. My first day of work at the new job one of the guys was saying no one takes a straight path to get in our industry and I was about to say a corny joke about my lack of straightness when my brain was like “don’t say that, no one knows you’re gay.” Like at my old job people would be expecting me to make a gay joke after a comment like that but now I low key panicked. (Plus two of my best friends at work were bi so safety in numbers is fun). I was at my old job for over three years and we kept the same core team for the whole time so I haven’t had to come out for a while.
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I just started a new job in a new city and it seems I’ve forgotten how to come out. There are 18 questions and answers below, and since I am but one woman with a Vitamin Water and nothing to eat in this house, your help is greatly appreciated! Each set is numbered for easy reference, so let’s get down to it. All the love, a queer engineer ready to take over the world.Īnd now on with the showcase showdown. So, thank you for the “yes” answer, one never knows how far a simple answer can go. After careful consideration and some happy news I was given in the past few months, this week I started a new job that I am very happy about and have amicably left my previous job. I wanted to change jobs because the money wasn’t good enough and needed an encouragement. Hi autostraddle! I wanted to briefly follow up on an issue I had asked you about on YNH #14.
Here’s another great follow-up message from a past You-Need-Helper! Spring! Cleaning! the You Need Help! Inbox! The 200 Best Lesbian, Bisexual & Queer Movies Of All Time.LGBTQ Television Guide: What To Watch Now.
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